Thursday 9 May 2013

The Things We Shouldn't Do For Men

I was randomly surfing *read wasting time* Facebooking, *yes, it's a verb now*, and found this one confession that a girl made - break up happened 'cuz the guy was a total ass. This girl wants to know how to move on and stop dying every day. She must be around 18, having her whole life ahead of her. And yet there she is, weeping and breaking herself day in and day out. My heart goes out to such girls, I tell ya. The over thinkers, the emotional ones. The ones that need rescuing. Though it's so tempting to be taken care of, made feel good and babied up, at one point, doesn't it get nauseous? I mean, shouldn't we all be a little more stronger? A little more braver? And a little more happier?

I found this piece by Oprah recently, couldn't stop myself from sharing. Next time you see a girl crying over The him, show her this.

If Oprah says so, it's GOTTA be true.

♥ If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. 
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending... Compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE
individuals. Look for someone complimentary...
not supplementary.

Dating is fun... Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes... When a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him ~ he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil says... You should know that: You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts... 


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  1. Beautiful words and so true :)

  2. wow! good points Namitha and each one of them truer than the other...

  3. Girl, you are so amazing.
    I love to read your blog

    1. Tanu, that made my day! :) Thank you doll :)

  4. That is so true and inspiring. . . Thanks a lot sweetu . . That's Wat i really needed :-)


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